Ladies, this one is for you, but if your husband missed the last session, it would be wise to encourage him to take a close look at Happy Wife Happy Life. Remember, husbands and wives see things through different eyes and different mind sets, so it is necessary to allow God’s Word to bring cohesiveness and clarity to our relationships. The institution of marriage is absolutely amazing. In fact, it is so profound and powerful that God created marriage to be the cornerstone of societies and nations. It was not a coincidence that Jesus performed His very first miracle at a wedding in Cana of Galilee. Turning water into wine was an absolutely incredible miracle, (try it in your spare time) but Jesus is still in the business of doing amazing miracles for marriages and families. God is unchanging, and He hasn’t changed His directives for enjoying a healthy marriage. “Wives, honor your husbands in all things, as this is pleasing to the Lord.” “Husbands, love your wife as Christ loves the Church and gave Himself up for her.” Those directives are pure and simple, but marriage can become complex when we allow ourselves to walk according to the flesh instead of the Spirit. Last week your husband was asked to name the three things that are most important to his wife, and to name them in the order of importance. Now the shoe is on the other foot. Wives, a study of God’s Word reveals three basic needs of your husband. Do you know what they are? Take a moment and write them down in the order that you think are the most important. DO NOT LOOK AHEAD!!!
Remember that last week we made this statement: When a wife or husband says that they have a fun and rewarding marriage they are saying, “My needs are being met.” We concluded that the three most important needs of the wife are 1- Security 2- Communication 3- Romance.
Now let’s look at your husband’s #1 need
Webster defines companionship as persons who compliment, accompany, and completes the needs of another. When God took a rib from the side of Adam, a spiritual marvel took place. The marvel is that the physical and emotional needs of man would never be complete without the rib being returned. It is easy to see that Adam knew that a spiritual miracle had taken place when God presented Eve as his wife because he said, “She is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man” (Gen. 2:23). Caution! husbands nor wives can complete their mate in the spiritual sense, but they can bring a sense of completeness into their physical relationship. You will find that the longer a couple are married, the more defining and wholesome their companionship becomes.
Wives, if you thought that sex was your husband’s number one need, you only missed it by one. Sex is very important to your husband and there is absolutely everything right about his desire for his wife. Unfortunately, sex has gotten a bad rap in many Christian circles, but in the beginning when sin did not exist, there was absolutely no embarrassing thoughts when Adam and Eve enjoyed sex together. It was and still is the most normal thing they could do to show their love and affection for each other. Take a few moments to read the Songs of Solomon and you will see that a physical relationship between a husband and wife was God’s idea, and it was a very good one. Consider this: A satisfying relationship in the bedroom has the power to create a harmonious and joyful relationship in every room of the house. Sex is not evil, it is God’s gift to every marriage relationship, but it is never, ever to be entered into outside the confines of marriage.
Unless a wife truly gives honor and respect to her husband, she will never enjoy a healthy marriage, and it is very unlikely that the marriage will stand. Proverbs 14:1 “A wise woman builds her house, but the foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” God is reminding every wife that her words and actions will not return to her void. A wise woman will always honor her husband in private and in public, but most especially before her children, family and friends. There will always be times when a husband’s conduct doesn’t warrant affirmative words, but affirmative words will always allow God to get involved instead of the flesh. When the wife does her part, God will always do His part. Remember, the flesh is always at war with the Spirit. Take a few moments to examine your attitude towards your husband. Are you building your home or unknowingly tearing it down?_______
Wives, remember that your husband is to be the doorkeeper, protector, and provider, but you are the thermostat. Do your part and you will find that a Happy Husband will create a Happy Home.
Next Friday, we will explore, “Marriage is more than it’s cracked up to be!” Questions and prayer request are always welcome. If you haven’t signed up on our website, we encourage you to do so. In Christ, Don & Penny